Celibacy is definitely high on the priority list nowadays for celebs who are tired of jumping in relationships based off of sex. Meagan Good, Tamera Mowry and Mariah Carey have all spoken out about how they put the bedroom on lockdown until they got married, and now LisaRaye McCoy has added her name to the list.
This week, she revealed to CocoaFab, that she is now practicing celibacy so that she can build a foundation with someone that’s based off of friendship first:
I’m in a new place. I’ve tried everything but celibacy, and I really want to know what it feels like to be touched by someone with a mental touch and not a physical touch. I want to know what it is to build the foundation of the friendship for real, to have my best friend and not because we’re just intimate, but because we’re mentally intimate. So I’m waiting for that person to come into my life. And when I get myself together, I know God is gonna bless me with that, because I don’t want to come with extra baggage. I’ll come with some, but it’s not fair to him to come with a whole bunch.
She also revealed that she has been stigmatized by her role as a stripper in her first film, “Players Club.”
When men meet me, they’re in awe of the image. I’m so turned off by that. Automatically I’m like, ‘Boy move.’ You know what I mean? Baby, bye. It’s like, ‘OK. How many times can I say thank you? But you don’t know I can be a great friend? You don’t know I can cook. You don’t know that I’m a nurturer. You don’t know that I prefer to stay at home and watch a movie and pop my own popcorn.I can be a good friend. Hello! So I want someone to know me, to learn me. I want to start dating the man that I’m gonna marry. I want to start having some fun with someone that I know I’m gonna be with. I don’t play any games. I’m too old for that. I’ve been there, I’ve been around the block. I’m cultured, I’ve done a lot of things. I’m famous. I have money. I am polished, you know what I mean? I am a woman and I need a man, not a boy. I don’t want to be a teacher. I’m not trying to be your mother, I want to be your significant other.
Coincidentally, r&b singer Mario recently hit up Hot 97′s Morning Show, and he too revealed that he was celibate recently and it strengthened his spirit:
I was celibate for almost a year. It works. It strengthens your spirit. I mean more than anything, when you really start to understand the physical experience that we have as individuals, you understand that the spirit is way stronger than the physical but if you feed your physical more than [the mental], that’s going to dominate. So, I experimented with that and it’s something that I really wanted to go to a higher level spiritually. I felt like it would affect my music differently. It would affect my career, my surroundings, the people, and it has.
I agree. When you are having a relationship with someone that is not sexual, most of the time you really get to connect with them on a deeper level mentally. “Make love to my mind, first.” Sometimes sex, especially early in the relationship, can confuse things and cloud your judgement.
Have you practiced celibacy and if so, did you feel that it had a positive impact on your relationships?